A Girls Guide to Dating and First Impressions

Unfortunately with first impressions everyone knows you don’t get a second chance, especially in the sensitive world of dating. It’s often hard to un-classify yourself from a category once you have put yourself there. This is why it’s essential to make the right first impressions when beginning a new relationship.

First Impressions Dating Tip #1

Don’t seem over eager

After years and years of deciding what we wanted, who we wanted, and most importantly what we don’t want, the last things we want to do is throw away the perfect opportunity for a great and long-lasting relationship because we’re too eager to seal the deal. When you first meet someone who you feel has relationship potential, it is important to make sure you don’t come across as too enthusiastic, blunt or obvious. He needs to convince you he’s worth your time, and more importantly he needs to feel it took time to win you over.  The less you try to sell yourself, the more self-assured and confident you will seem. Remember, you don’t get a second chance with first impressions.

First Impressions Dating Tip #2

Don’t compete

If during your first impressions with a new man you show you are willing to compete with other women, the first mistake is already made. Competing is a game you can never win, because when you compete with another woman, it automatically cheapens you. It shows that you aren’t sure of your self-worth. Men are used to insecure women, so it’s very important to make sure you are different.  You need to exude confidence with who you are as a person. Your aura should say that you aren’t concerned about your ability to measure up to other women because you already know what you have to offer is pretty spectacular. If you feel he is purposely trying to make you feel insecure, let your feeling be your guide, and reevaluate the intentions behind this possible partner. And remember, never, ever, compete with another woman under any circumstance.

First Impressions Dating Tip #3

Always look at how he acts, not at what he says

Let your first impressions and observations be your best guide.  Keep in mind to take the easier course when it comes to believing men. Behave as if you trust him until he gives you a reason not to. Relationships should feel effortless in the beginning, not like you’re jumping through a complicated obstacle course. Judging everything he says and trying to find out if he’s telling the truth or not is exhausting and unnecessary. Take his words at face value and then give him time to show you – not just tell you - who his with his actions.

First Impressions Dating Tip #4

Never compromise yourself

In a relationship there is nothing more attractive to a man than a woman who has satisfaction and pride in whom she is. During the first impressions with men it is important to show dignity in how you carry yourself and how you expect to be treated. This adds the key ingredient to assure you become a long-term prospect: respect. Self-respect is like a one-punch knockout to a guy. The more you display respect for yourself the more you move up on his priority list. Having the self-confidence to make yourself heard when something isn’t right shows him you’re not accepting of mistreatment. When he knows you aren’t afraid of loosing him, he becomes afraid of loosing you. So commit it to memory…never compromise yourself or the way you are treated.