A Single Guy’s Guide to Dating and First Impressions

It’s every woman’s prerogative to change her mind; however, we all know the process of convincing her to change her mind is easier said than done.  Research shows that first impressions occur within a couple of seconds, reiterating why first impressions are critical.  The following tips can guide a single guy the next time he wants to approach the attractive lady across the room.

Express Yourself

Studies have shown that people who are more communicative are considered more attractive. Don’t be shy to express your personality and to even turn it up a notch.  It is even possible to prepare some conversation starters to create a successful first impression; these starters can be practiced in situations with less pressure such as at the grocery store or in front of the mirror at home.

Let’s get Physical

Use your body to draw women toward you. Women find attentive men attractive, and maintaining eye contact and leaning forward when listening to them always leads to an A+ first impression. Be cautious not to overdo it, however, as you don’t want her to invade personal space

When you say Nothing at all

Don’t discuss prior relationships or air your dirty laundry. This sounds like common sense, but in reality it is a common mistake. If you don’t have anything nice or positive to say, zip it! Don’t talk out of nervousness to fill air space. No one needs to know your uncle is doing jail time for check fraud.  Always show your best traits and qualities first. Make sure to avoid the job interview feeling and act as natural as possible.

R-E-S-P-E-C T

Treat people how you would like to be treated. If you want to be taken seriously, make sure you bring the same effort to your dating situation. Always show respect by keeping cell phone use to a minimum unless you have explained you are expecting an important call. Show your date full attention and don’t let your eyes wander around the room behind them or use mirrors to watch other people. Make sure to take your attire into consideration, as dressing sharp for your date shows you respect them and their time. Appearances make lasting first impressions, so always put forth an extra effort.

Say My Name

When you use a woman’s name in a sentence, it shows that you were interested enough to pay attention and take notice when she introduced herself. This alone will turn up the volume on everything else you say and encourages her to give you the same treatment in return.

Don’t Worry, Be Happy

First impressions are important, but they’re rarely the end all/be-all of a relationship. Unless you’re covering up a huge part of your personality, it’s completely possible to recover from unfortunate first impressions. People are forgiving and understand an entire person can’t be summed up in a couple of minutes. If you bounce back successfully, the blunder could be used as a source of humor on future dates. Be authentic and let any bloopers work to your advantage. A successful recovery shows that you can handle yourself in an uncomfortable situation, allowing her to feel more comfortable and setting you apart from others.

If you feel you need help making the perfect first impression, don’t worry. Two of Us^® is here to guide you every step of the way with expert date doctors who can constructively and honestly assess you on every last detail. From how put your look together to conversation and manners, we make sure you’re at your best before you walk out the door.  With these invaluable "dress rehearsals," our experts will give you feedback on areas to improve as well let you know all the things you were doing right so you continue doing them. We want you to succeed, and you can never be too prepared for the perfect beginning to "The Two of Us" . . . because two is always better than one.